What to Expect: An Intentional Process & An Investment to Match
There is no swiping, no exhaustion from too many speed dates, no first meetings with someone a Church LOL (Little Old Lady) set you up with because you were both single but you have nothing in common with.
CommitmentISM is personal, prayerful, and rooted in real conversation, because meeting your future spouse deserves more care than an app can give.
What Catholic Matchmaking can do
Here’s what changes when you stop swiping and start trusting:
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Imagine what would happen if you were actually honest about what you want in your profile. It might be easier to find someone who matches the real you!
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Madigan will see you as God created you: worthy of love! She seeks to find someone who will appreciate what you have to offer.
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Phone-first introductions so you meet someone as a person, not a profile. Real voices, real warmth, real “conversational chemistry,” and it makes a difference!
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Confidential matching so you can open up without feeling exposed. Your information and photos stay private because your love life is intimate and vulnerable. We want to honor your bravery.
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Catholicism at the center so you can date with integrity, peace, and a shared understanding of what marriage really means. We do not work with people who don’t want a faith centered marriage or kids.
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Human connections so dating stops feeling like a bad rom com and starts feeling possible! Make dating human again!
STEP 1: Join the Date-A-Base
Fill out a profile for free when you’re open to being matched.
This has no immediate commitment. This helps people get clarity on who they are and what they are looking for.
Take about 12–33 minutes to complete a confidential profile—longer than a dating app, shorter than therapy. I’m not your counselor, but asking for what you want helps me understand what I’m looking for.
I’ll ask questions that get to the heart of things:
What you do for fun, for work, and how you feel about both parties working long term
Where you live and where you’re open to living in the future
Lifestyle choices
Values, desires, dealbreakers & dreams
Catholic specific questions like faith journey, Mass type, and prayer life
Once you’ve submitted, your role is simple: pray for your person, live your life, and trust that timing is part of the story too..
If Matchmaker Madigan has any questions, she will reach out to clarify. If you are open to Premium or Priority you will hear from her in the following month. This all happens in God’s timing so there is no “expected timeframe” for a passive match.
Conversational Chemistry Call
When I feel I found a match for you, I’ll send you an email you to schedule a phone call. Once we find a time that works for all of us, you’ll receive a calendar invite, call details, and a short bio—just enough information for you to be curious, but not enough that you could ever google someone!
You then send in photos that feel like you. (No headshots or professional photos required. Ones that make YOU happy. We want your joy to radiate!)
Pay your match fee, if applicable, before the call for mutual investment.
Then, at the scheduled time, I start the call, make the introduction, begin the call with prayer… and then I gracefully leave the call.
It does two things: 1) Keeps your phone number protected for the duration of the call 2) Means that if I introduce you to your future spouse, y’all will have prayed within the first 5 minutes of meeting.
I encourage people to talk for the full hour, but not more than the 90 minutes The Dating Project recommends. All you have to do is get to know someone!
We intentionally wait 24 hours for you to sleep, eat, pray, and process your meeting. No quick discernment here.
The Following Day
The next day, we send an email asking whether you’d like to see a photo in order to help you discern.
From there, the choice is yours:
Sometimes it’s a clear “yes”, and the pursual begins. Phone numbers are shared, and I root for an invitation to the wedding. (Blind first dates are possible!)
Sometimes the personality is wonderful, but the attraction isn’t there. That’s human. Physical attraction is important. Just remember it can grow!
Occasionally, the call makes it clear you’re not a match. That clarity means you’re one step closer to finding your life partner and we love that!
Please note: This process can take a week for us to coordinate/discuss with both parties.
What we don’t do: ghosting. If someone disappears without communication after phone numbers are shared, they’re removed from the database. Dating with dignity is not optional here.
What if we didn’t get it right on the first try?
It happens.
It’s NEVER our goal.
We provide marriage minded Catholics an opportunity to meet other Catholics who are serious about marriage.
Every “no” brings us closer to your forever “yes”!
You can decide how we proceed—passive, priority, or time for premium. We want to be in your love life as much as you want us to!
Invest in your Future
Why is CommitmentISM more expensive?
We are not a cheap subscription service that hopes you forget to cancel. If I had it my way, I would set you up one time and you would be discerning marriage in 6 months.
Dating apps charge you to access people. We read over 600+ extensive profiles looking for the type of person you’re looking for.
Madigan invests time, prayer, research, and discernment into helping you meet the right person. That kind of care takes more than an algorithm, and it’s why this works best for people who are serious about marriage.
When something really matters, like buying a home for the next 30 years, people don’t try to do it alone. They hire a realtor—someone who knows the market, asks the right questions, and helps them avoid costly mistakes—because the decision matters.
This is an investment in your future, not just your next date.
I also want this work to remain accessible to all Catholics, not just for the wealthy. Among professional matchmakers, my pricing is modest.
I believe in mutual investment. I’ll be as involved in your love life as you want me to be.
Who You Marry will Impact Every Aspect of Your Future. Invest accordingly.
Ways to Participate
Passive Date-A-Base Lead
Priority Subscription
Premium Membership
1.Date-a-Base
Pay per Match option
The Date-a-Base is a private roster of Catholics serious about marriage. If you’re a strong fit for someone (often a Priority or Premium member) we’ll reach out.
Consider this the “No Expectations of Madigan” Package because there is no pressure, guaranteed matches, or promised timelines.
Investment $$
Conversational Chemistry Call: $100
This creates mutual investment in the call so the cost is not variable based on interest level of either party.
Passive is perfect for:
People who desire to find their person and start a family, but have no timelines
Those who are over dating apps and want another option
Anyone who is serious about marriage, but doesn’t have a priority or premium budget right now
Someone who likes to diversify their dating opportunities
Are you past passivity?
It might be time to email us about an upgrade.
Some people are happy to stay quietly in the database. Others want a matchmaker actively in their corner.
If you’re ready for more structure, proactive searching, and have some expectations, you can upgrade at any time (provided the waitlist is empty). And if you upgrade before your first match, the $100 first match fee is applied as a credit toward your package.
If you’re the kind of person who likes a plan—or at least a person with a plan—this is usually where that instinct shows up.
What changes when you upgrade
| Upgraded Support | Date-A-Base (Standard) | |
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| Priority in Matching | Actively searching for your match | Considered when fits for ISM clients arise |
| 1:1 time | Deeper onboarding + ongoing check-ins | One readiness call; follow-ups when matched |
| Typical time to first intro | Often within first few weeks | Opportunistic—when a fit appears |
| Ongoing support | Coaching notes, clarity calls, encouragement | Quick debriefs after any intro |
| Investment | 3-12 month commitment | No cost to join; per-intro fee only |
| Flexibility | Upgrade or extend anytime | Upgrade anytime |
Once you’re in the Date-a-Base, you can choose to upgrade to one of two paid membership paths.
Both follow the same principles and process; the difference is your expectations and financial commitment
Upgraded Support Options
Priority Subscription
Not Passive, Not Premium, just right for right now.
Priority is for those who want to give matchmaking a real try—with structure, accountability, and clearer movement—without committing to a full concierge search.
What this includes
Monthly searching through my inbound leads
Up to 3 Conversational Chemistry calls over 3 months
Limited number of priority clients (ask about waitlist)
A closing conversation to discern next steps
If I haven’t already introduced you to your spouse
Investment $$$
Upfront payment
(No automatic renewal)
Premium Membership
Traditional Boutique Matchmaking
Premium is a hands-on, highly personalized external search for people who want experienced guidance, advocacy, and consistent support as they discern marriage.
What this includes
Diocesan-specific outreach
Guaranteed Conversational Chemistry calls
Minimum 4-12 calls over 6-12 months
The ability to approve matches before phone calls
Monthly coaching calls with Catholic relationship coach
Investment $$$$
Half upfront, then in monthly increments
Ability to pause if you start dating a CISM match
Whether you’re brand-new to the Date-A-Base or you’ve been there for a few months, anytime you are ready for an upgrade you can email Madigan to upgrade support!
What we won’t compromise on:
Some things remain the same, because they matter!
Conversational Chemistry call before photos are shared.
Mutual “yes” before phone numbers are exchanged.
The same three-step process curated by a human—not an algorithm.
Dignity and clear expectations at every turn.
Your information and photos are never public.
Either person can decline at any point, gracefully.
Confidentiality is absolute. If we run into each other at a parish event, I’ll pretend we’ve never met. And I never reveal who is or isn’t in my database.
A note about match fees
The match fee exists to honor everyone’s time and readiness, not to nickel-and-dime anyone. Mutual investment means everyone is here for the same reasons and is serious about marriage.
If you remain in the Date-a-Base, matches are pay-per-introduction.
If you upgrade to Priority or Premium, matches are included.
Simple. Fair. Transparent.
Quick Questions
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Yes. Everyone starts in the Date-a-Base, and you can upgrade anytime.
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No. Same process, same standards. Paid tiers add priority, guarantees, and support.
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Priority and Premium members hear from me regularly. Date-a-Base members hear from me when a strong fit emerges.
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Details are covered in your agreement. If life shifts, we handle it with integrity.
Are we a Match made in Heaven?