When you join CommitmentISM, you you start with a confidential profile that goes deeper than most apps—questions about faith, values, patterns, and readiness, not just hobbies and your favorite brunch spot. This is how I get a real sense of who you are, so introductions are thoughtful instead of random.
I review it personally, and if I need more context, I’ll reach out. I don’t introduce people I haven’t taken the time to understand.
Once you’re in, you’re officially part of the CommitmentISM community. From there, you can stay right where you are—or choose more support when it feels right.
Introductions from the Date-a-Base include a match fee, unless you choose to upgrade beforehand.
Those who want a low-pressure, respectful entry point
Anyone who wants to start here and decide later if they want more support
The Date-a-Base
Where everyone begins.
This is the foundation of CommitmentISM.
The Date-a-Base is a private roster of Catholics who are open to meeting someone—but not interested in broadcasting their lives online or forcing timelines. It’s intentional, discreet, and built for people who value discernment over speed. This isn’t a waiting room and it’s not a lineup. It’s more like being known — and contacted when it actually makes sense.
What this looks like
Your profile stays on file and completely private.
When I see strong alignment between you and someone else in the database (often a Priority or Premium member), I reach out.
If you’re both open, we schedule a phone introduction.
Investment
First match: $100 Subsequent matches (if you do not upgrade): $150 per introduction
There’s no promised timeline and no guaranteed matches at this level. This path favors patience, trust, and openness over urgency.
Some people are happy to stay quietly in the database. Others want a matchmaker actively in their corner.
If you’re ready for more structure, feedback, and proactive searching, you can upgrade at any time. And if you upgrade before your first match, your $100 match fee is applied as a credit toward your subscription.
If you’re the kind of person who likes a plan — or at least a person with a plan — this is usually where that instinct shows up.
What changes when you upgrade
Once you’re in the Date-a-Base, you can choose to upgrade into one of two paid membership paths. Both follow the same principles and process—the difference is how actively I’m involved, and how much momentum you want.
Upgraded Support
Date-A-Base (Standard)
Priority in Matching
I actively search for you and keep you top-of-mind
Considered when fits for ISM clients arise
1:1 time
Deeper onboarding + ongoing check-ins
One readiness call; follow-ups when matched
Visibility / feature
Optional anonymous spotlight on Love That
Not featured
Typical time to first intro
Often within first few weeks (varies by readiness)
Opportunistic—when a fit appears
Ongoing support
Coaching notes, clarity calls, encouragement
Quick debriefs after any intro
Investment
Four-month engagement; higher investment with transparent terms
No cost to join; per-intro fee only
Flexibility
Upgrade or extend anytime
Upgrade anytime
Photos Policy
Shared only after conversational chemistry call
Shared only after conversational chemistry call
Intro format
Phone-first, prayed-in
Phone-first, prayed-in
Privacy
Always confidential
Always confidential
(Exact pricing is discussed in your consult so we can consider age range, geography, and readiness.)
You’re never locked into one path. People upgrade, extend, or stay where they are depending on what season they’re in. We carry forward everything we learn about you either way.
Priority Membership
Who this is for
People who are ready for momentum, but don’t need a full white-glove search
Those who want structure, accountability, and thoughtful feedback along the way
Anyone who knows they’re ready to move forward and values having a matchmaker actively paying attention
For people who want movement, without going all-in.
Priority is for people who are ready to move forward—but don’t need a full headhunter approach.
I intentionally prioritize you during dedicated search time each month, guide introductions thoughtfully, and help you learn from each step along the way.
What this includes
1–3 matches guaranteed over three months
Phone feedback after your first match, with email feedback after subsequent matches
A closing Zoom conversation to discern next steps
Investment
Starting at $600 for three months
Notes
Matches are included (no per-match fees after the first)
This membership runs continuously for three months and can’t be paused
Conversational Chemistry call before any photo exchange. Attraction follows connection.
Mutual “yes” before phone numbers exchange.
The same five-step process, curated by a human—not an algorithm.
Dignity, privacy, and clear boundaries at every turn.
Your information and photosare never public.
Either person can decline at any point, gracefully and without explanation.
Confidentiality is absolute. If we run into each other at a parish event, I’ll pretend we’ve never met. And I never reveal who is or isn’t in my database.
A per-introduction match fee applies to both paths before your first prayed-in call. It’s about shared investment, not transactions.
A Note About Match Fees
The match fee exists to honor everyone’s time and readiness. It’s not transactional—it’s intentional.
If you remain in the Date-a-Base, matches are pay-per-introduction. If you upgrade to Priority or Premium, matches are included. If you upgrade before your first match, your $100 first-match fee becomes a credit.
Simple. Fair. Transparent.
If It’s Not a Match
Sometimes an introduction simply isn’t the right fit. When that happens, we pause, reflect, and adjust what we’re looking for together. There’s no pressure to explain yourself, no uncomfortable follow-ups, and no sense that you’ve “missed your chance.”
Each conversation adds clarity, not discouragement. Over time, patterns emerge, understanding deepens, and it becomes easier to recognize when a connection has real potential — and when it’s simply not the right one yet.
Quick Questions
Yes. Everyone starts in the Date-a-Base, and you can upgrade anytime.
No. Same process, same standards. Paid tiers add priority, guarantees, and support.
Priority and Premium members hear from me regularly. Date-a-Base members hear from me when a strong fit emerges.
Yes. Many introductions begin across dioceses, with logistics discussed early.
Details are covered in your agreement. If life shifts, we handle it with integrity.
