Pop the Questions

Everything you’ve wanted to ask (and a few you haven’t yet).

Let’s be honest—you’ve got questions. Good. The right ones usually lead somewhere holy.

Below you’ll find the nuts and bolts of how CommitmentISM works—plus some honest answers about timing, privacy, and what happens between “hello” and “happily ever after.”

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Who Commitment ISM Serves

We work with single Catholic men and women, age 22 and up, who are free to marry in the Church and serious about building a Sacrificial Ever After.

If that phrase makes you smile instead of squirm—you’re in the right place.

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General Questions

  • Absolutely. Think of it like the seal of confession meets good data hygiene.

    All identifying information—your name, contact info, photos, preferences, stories—stays between you and me. Your details are never public, shared, or searchable.

    More details live in our Privacy Policy.

  • Only after a mutual yes.

    You’ll talk first—by phone—and once both of you feel genuine connection, photos are shared privately. This keeps attraction rooted in reality, not reflex.

  • It’s called Conversational Chemistry.

    We start with a brief prayer (yes, really), then I introduce you and step off of the call, giving you privacy to talk without pressure. The call is usually about 20–40 minutes on average. It’s your first “date,” minus the noise and social anxiety.

  • There’s no stopwatch on grace.

    Still, most I Seek Marriage clients see their first introduction within a few weeks of joining, and the full engagement runs four months. Some matches happen quickly; others take a little refining.

    Either way, quality over speed—always.

  • You’ll each have a chance to say so privately. I take notes, update what we’re watching for, and keep moving.

    Every “no” sharpens your “yes.”

    • I Seek Marriage is a guided, four-month membership where I actively search and support you through every step.

    • Date-a-base is our free roster; you’re contacted when a strong fit appears.

    Both follow the same prayed-in, phone-first process and privacy standards.

  • I Seek Marriage has tiered packages based on age range and search complexity. We’ll talk specifics during your consult so it’s fair and transparent.

    Date-a-base is free to join; you pay only the per-introduction fee when a match is arranged.

    (There’s no subscription trap. You pay for four months of discernment, not endless swiping.)

  • Yes. Life happens.

    The active search window for I Seek Marriage is four months, but if you need to pause—new job, retreat, discernment break—we’ll talk and adjust with integrity.

  • It can and it often does. Many of our most promising introductions start across dioceses. We’ll talk through logistics and preferences before any match is arranged.

  • If you can answer “yes” to these three things, you’re ready enough:

    • You want marriage, not just dating.

    • You’re willing to be honest—with yourself and someone else.

    • You’re open to how God might surprise you.

    If that’s you, let’s begin.

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